Where Does The Bad Mood Come From?
Bad mood. Who has not ever lived it? It is a very common state not only among us, this humanity curdled with complex emotions and conflicting feelings. Animals also have their moments, those moments when they can surprise us with out of place behavior and even something aggressive.
You have to know how to understand them. And it is that we believe it or not, our dear friends of the animal fauna also feel those dimensions such as anger, jealousy, sadness, or bewilderment … drives that can perfectly generate a moment of bad humor.
It is therefore a universal emotion known to all of us. But now, I’m sure that right now those people will be coming to mind that without knowing why, it seems that they are always in a bad mood. Personalities with whom it is not easy to interact, communicate or even relate, since at the minimum, they can have a negative reaction.
It is something very characteristic. Although we also have to do some introspection and think about ourselves. What is it that usually generates a bad mood in you? How do you manage it, how do you deal with it? Let’s analyze the subject a bit.
WHAT TRIGGERS THE BAD HUMOR?
A bad mood can momentarily cloud our spirits. It is an annoying slab that blocks us and inflames us. The circumstances that trigger it can be several, let’s see some:
-Not met expectations: sometimes we expect things to happen according to the parameters that we have set. On ideas that we ourselves judge as expected and correct, those that mark the balance of our life.
There are people who are very strict in this dimension and who do not tolerate any change or difference according to their personal scheme, hence they more commonly show these outbursts of bad humor. Others, on the other hand, have a higher level of resistance, a more flexible limit where those expectations are not so iron, and therefore, their anger is not so intense.
-Denial of reality: surely you know those kinds of people who do not finish assuming certain things. Changes, variations … characters that in a certain way do not quite understand the now or the present, and remain anchored in a moment in the past where they felt more capable or secure. They are frustrated and continually upset.
-Excess of egocentricity : very characteristic, without a doubt. Those personalities who are only focused on themselves and who do not accept opinions, or points of view different from yours, are hopelessly doomed to a continuous bad mood. There is no altruism, they never yield, the self exerts a centripetal force where everything goes towards that interior in continuous confrontation with the world that surrounds it. Does this personality trait sound familiar to you? for sure YES.
THE POSITIVE EFFECTS OF BAD HUMOR
How, that bad humor has its positive side? Of course, well managed and managed so that it lasts as little as possible, it will always provide us with acceptable benefits. Tal Ben Shahar, a professor of Positive Psychology at Harvard University, bad mood acts as a kind of valve with which to relieve the pressure to which we are sometimes subjected.
It is common. A problem at work, a difference with a friend, with a relative, all this puts us in a certain situation where the purpose is to force us to have to face something. To accept a circumstance.
If I permanently lock myself out and get in this bad mood, I will never be able to move forward or take on the problem. But if I get angry, assume my rage, my bad mood and then seek some relief in a walk to clarify ideas and rest my mind, surely I will end up skillfully managing said situation.
Believe it or not, a bad mood can improve our abilities to cope with problems, a moderate irritability alerts us to a world that should not always be as we expect. It is a lesson that we must learn and know how to face. If we react to something it is because we are human and emotional, emotions are those drives that shape and teach us. If you get angry, if you suffer an explosion of bad humor, inquire in yourself and ask yourself what motivates it and how you can solve it.
Sometimes they are nothing more than insignificance that we forget in a few minutes, but on other occasions, they give us a wake-up call of that external world from which we must continually learn, there where victimhood or self-centeredness is not valid. Defend yourself or accept, mitigate the bad mood by looking for a moment of solitude or a moment of company. Don’t obsess over things, life is sometimes easier than you think.
