When You Cry You Get A Hug

Unfortunately, crying is an action that currently continues to be frowned upon by a large sector of society. It is usually associated with weakness, victimhood or drama. However, it is something totally natural and necessary, because when you cry you clean your interior and calm your soul.

Part of developing emotional intelligence is identifying, understanding, and accepting our emotions. But it is also very important to learn to manage them properly. Therefore, if we want to mature emotionally we have to get rid of these wrong and harmful beliefs. 

When you cry you calm your interior

There are many emotions, both positive and negative, that can cause us to cry. We can cry of sadness, of rage of helplessness, but also of joy, surprise or euphoria. In any case, these emotions are presented with such intensity that they overwhelm us. They generate in us a feeling of growing tension that finds in crying an adequate escape valve.

Not crying does not exempt you from experiencing emotions. The difference between those who cry and those who hold back is not what they feel, but the way they handle it. We all feel that it is part of our human nature, as is crying as an emotional regulation mechanism.

When crying, various substances are released into our body that generate a pleasant calming effect. This helps us to calm down, reduce internal tension and regain control.

If, due to an inadequate emotional education, a person learned to suppress crying, they will experience various problems. In the first place, you are denying yourself the most natural and effective mechanism to alleviate these overwhelming emotions. Second, as we have said, avoiding crying will not prevent what you feel; on the contrary, suppressing the crying will increase the internal pressure which can lead to resorting to aggressive behaviors as an escape route.

When you cry you receive a hug from yourself, you hug your soul and allow it to express what it carries inside. When you cry you take care of yourself, you accept yourself and you free yourself. You choose the best way to regain your inner balance.

When you cry you get a hug

But, in addition, when you cry, you transmit your internal state to the people around you. This helps them understand you, put themselves in your shoes, and act accordingly. When you cry of sadness you receive hugs of consolation, when you cry of joy you receive hugs of celebration. Crying is also a form of communication with others. 

Who cries is not weak, but honest. He allows himself to feel, without restriction or repression. When you cry, you come into coherence with yourself by allowing your actions to be consistent with your thoughts and your mood. He is also honest with those around him, since he does not hide his emotions or disguise himself as other alternatives. How many times have we observed people show anger to hide sadness.

When you choose to hide or mask your emotions the message becomes contaminated and communication becomes obstructed. You may feel enormous sadness and need the understanding, support, and support of a loved one. But, if you show yourself to him with rage, anger, disdain or indifference, that hug you need will not come because you are sending the wrong message.

Suppressing crying will only lead to loneliness, isolation, and a feeling of misunderstanding. Managing emotions alone is not easy, and it becomes harmful when we do not allow ourselves to release them even to ourselves. Emotional ventilation is essential to heal and transcend any negative emotions.

Crying is a right

Therefore, let us begin to turn a deaf ear to those who affirm that crying is weak because in reality it is wise. Don’t let the opinion of others take away your right to manage and regulate your emotions in such a natural and human way.

If you feel that you cry excessively, that every little situation leads you to cry, something may happen. If this happens, you probably need to heal a wound that is still open internally. But the issue will always be the wound that still hurts you, and not the fact that you express your pain. 

Then cry, cry your grief, your joy, your disappointment and your enthusiasm. Cry because the water that does not flow stagnates. Cry because by doing so you renew yourself.