Time Passes Quickly, But There Are Also Real Experts In Speeding It Up

The passage of time is a feeling shared by all ; in fact, in the very advance of the second hand we find the justification for its existence. For some it is a difficult weight to bear, while for others it responds to the satisfaction of a desire. This matter has been debated by different thinkers, from the philosophers of ancient Greece to the present day.

The idea of ​​making the most of every passing second and squeezing every moment is an obsession for many people. They look at life as a fluttering butterfly, as it ages, and which they have to catch. Others find the meaning of their existence and balance giving all the importance to the moment, without looking up beyond the tile they step on.

The idea of ​​being masters of our time means that as a species we have divided and organized our way of living in temporary spaces. Western culture establishes some vital stages, accompanied, of course, by certain uses and customs. Thus, having a clear definition of the life cycle, what makes us sometimes want to move forward so fast?

Time pressure and the “shoulds”

Although there are people who take different paths, the reality is that there is a set path that most of us travel. Study, find a partner, find a job, live together, get married and have children.

Perhaps you are from that group of people who have not followed the scheme, but even in the deviation  you have surely been able to notice pressures from your environment, more or less subtle, to follow it.

The comments in which the “you should already …” hover over us in family and social settings. The pressure exerted on the new generations seemed to be less, but it is not. Without realizing it, the feeling of failure can arise from not following many of those “shoulds” that remind us of the outside world.

Any scale of personal values ​​is very respectable, obviously as long as it does not harm anyone (others or oneself). The vital goals that we set for ourselves on a personal and family level can turn against us, that happens when expectations do not correspond to realities.

Leaving aside the socioeconomic difficulties and the changes that surround us, there are many couples who have inherited the concept of family from their parents. This is not open to criticism, since the inherited base of values ​​does not necessarily mean a brake on our personal growth. However, to what extent are we conditioned? Let’s think , have we developed our own goals or is there influence and pressure?

Burn stages too fast

Surely in our environment we know couples who follow these steps and decide to marry before the age of twenty-five, buy a house and have children before the age of thirty. The first and most important thing is that both people are fully convinced of achieving these goals at the same time.

For example, we just moved with our partner to a rental house when we were considering buying a home. What drives us to do so? The pressure of being a couple according to what society marks? Maybe being a mother according to the “should …”? Personal growth and wealth go a little beyond independence from home, motherhood or fatherhood. Personal growth does not have so much to do with the outcome of decisions as where you make them from.

Consuming the stages too quickly can make us regret it or want to go backwards and that the cost we have to pay for it is very high. In addition, when reviewing our existence, it can make us want to blame our partner, parents or blame ourselves.

This would not be fair, since each one owns the moments of his life. Undoubtedly, there are always spaces for your own decision where you not only have to give in, but also be brave.

The greatness of every vital moment

One of the main elements that we must try to achieve is the feeling of fullness. It is important to know that the emotions and sensations that we are curious about are cultivated before taking the next step.

This will prevent in the future that we blame people for a responsibility that was ours or that feelings of vital frustration appear. For example, if in my life plan there are trips, knowing cultures or exploring, it is not a sign of selfishness to look for a time in which to enjoy these types of experiences.

At the right stage, for example, investing in experiences instead of saving for the wedding is not a sign of immaturity, but of enrichment. Investigate, play and live the moment that touches you without anticipating events … Surely this way you will be able to offer the best of yourself as the future becomes the present.