There Are Words That Only Reach The Ear, Others Kiss The Soul

Words are not just the result of a vibrating larynx, processing neurons, and an ordering brain. We are the conjunction of our hidden cries, of our desires drawn at dawn and of all the caresses offered in secret.

Our words are worlds with a high emotional power to unite us with each other. We could safely say that we were created to respond to affection.

Our brain is the laborious and fascinating result of an evolution where the weight of language linked to emotions has undoubtedly been a key piece. Words create bonds, comfort, teach, comfort and of course, sometimes, they go beyond hearing and “caress the soul”.

If our language is the music that emerges through that wonderful violin where our emotions hide, one thing is clear: not all of us know how to use it properly. Sometimes the melody is harmful and we bring unhappiness. At other times, we are unable to make ourselves understood, transmit and move. We invite you to reflect on it. 

Words: mediators between affection and language that allows us to grow

The type of language that we establish in our emotional relationships, family or even during parenting is decisive. So much so, that according to a study carried out at the National Autonomous University of Mexico, a baby surrounded by affection and emotionally positive language will have a much more optimal cognitive development.

Something that we all also know is that it is not always easy to find a person who has the ability to offer us the right phrase and do it at the time most needed.

But this wisdom is not abundant, that of someone who perfectly masters emotional language as well as intuition and empathy. Hence, the number of voices calling for the integration of emotional training into the educational system has increased considerably.

Emotional literacy: when language is put at the service of affect

Putting language at the service of affect has some characteristics. Emotion literacy would try to develop an indispensable cognitive area: that of understanding the perspective of the other in order to “tune in” to their emotional state.

Something like this could only be achieved by first initiating the child in the recognition of his own emotions, while offering him the strategies to know how to express what he feels through language.

With emotional literacy, in addition, they would better understand their own feelings by being able to translate them into words as well. All of this would offer them a marvelous handling of emotional language as a tool for self-knowledge and bonding to connect with others.

As we already know, everything that refers to emotional intelligence is “trainable”. Not only are children receptive to this type of learning, we also have to become aware that language has the capacity to unite or distance. It is essential that the word is always a weapon of growth, not of discord.

As we can see, this wonderful product of evolution, the brain, converges on an indispensable pillar: the relationship between language and emotions. It is a detail that we do not think of often, but as we pointed out at the beginning of the article, “we have been created to respond to affection.”

• If it did not have the affection of its parents, a child would not develop in a healthy way, and would not even survive.

• Words turn on the neurochemistry in our brains to make us feel certain emotions. In turn, emotions are transformed into actions, into changes, into powerful wills …

The word allows us to heal fears, relieve anguish, comfort loneliness and cheer up sleepy hearts. Sometimes we forget it, we neglect the great resource that we have in our mouth and heart to create bonds and bring happiness to ours. It is worth keeping in mind …