The Types Of Jealousy And Their Anatomy
Jealousy. We have all felt them at times with greater or lesser intensity and, equally, we have been victims of those people who set their sights on us full of envy, or of overprotection in the case of romantic partners.
Sometimes their excessive behaviors can become a clear threat to us. Sometimes they make us fall into an abyss of control and negative emotions that can affect our psychological and personal integrity. Experts usually distinguish jealous people from the so-called “cellopaths”, where they include those personalities that are already approaching the plane of the disease where other types of problems are hidden.
Childish jealousy
Jealousy between siblings is very common in families. Although individual differences often exist, it is common for many children to feel emotionally frustrated at the thought that their parents are paying more attention and offering more affection to their other siblings. A situation that can sometimes cause discomfort and deterioration in the home due to possible maladaptive behaviors or aggressive behaviors, which must be taken into account to treat in time.
In these cases the parents must know how to resolve these situations. It is advisable, for example, to establish a balance of treatment between siblings, without preferences, praise the positive aspects of children whenever possible, increase activities together, withdraw attention to manifestations of tantrums or negativism, respond calmly to the episodes of jealousy avoiding shouting or shrillness, etc.
Work jealousy
According to several studies, almost 40% of people have suffered a situation of jealousy from their coworkers at some point. Moreover, recent analyzes comment that it is women with a very high level of competitiveness who present the greatest jealousy and challenging behaviors against other women. If these are also attractive, your perceived feeling of envy is much greater.
These people focus on others the responsibility for their failures, are unable to maintain internal control over their own performance and see in others, powers that they lack. They do not know how to manage their emotions, their colleagues are rivals with qualities and abilities that they wish they had, and that they do not even consider developing.
Their self-concepts are usually formed by a messy puzzle of deficiencies, insecurities and weaknesses that they hide with challenge and rivalry. A characteristic that, as we have pointed out, seems to be more evident in women in work contexts, with other women being precisely the focus of their jealousy.
Couple jealousy
Jealousy is common in the context of couples, it is considered normal to the extent that neither of them is coerced or assaulted by excessive or pathological behavior. But sometimes complex situations tend to arise where mistrust begins to be the fundamental pillar of the relationship, where suffering and the first cracks appear in the couple.
People called “cellopaths” tend to repeatedly imagine that their partners are going to betray them, they look for continuous signs of these unfounded ideas, they monitor, persecute and control, they have an obsessive fear of being abandoned.
What is behind these personalities? They have a clear insecurity in themselves, little confidence and a very low self-esteem that makes them believe that they are going to be abandoned.
They pretend to be everything to the other, thus demonstrating a lack of understanding, they mistake love for possession. They are another type of jealousy different from the previous ones, but equally harmful for the people who are around.
