The Silence Of The Envious Is Full Of Noise

“ His silence makes me really uncomfortable. When I have him close he does not say anything, but I notice in his face that he cannot see how others appreciate me and give me affection.

When I talk about any small achievement that I have achieved, I feel that he is not happy and even that he is having a bad time. Other times he tries to hide and pretend a tremendous joy for my things, which I know he does not really feel.

I wish I didn’t realize it, because I suffer for him. I really want to run out of friends’ gatherings that we are in together.

If he could see things differently. If I could feel that because they appreciate me, because I achieve my small triumphs, it has nothing to do with him being better or worse. It has nothing to do with being loved too. I think that he should learn to be happy with what he has and what he is.

It makes me sad because he doesn’t realize that the only one who gets hurt is himself. Because at the end of the day, I am happy with what I have and what I don’t have. I don’t compare myself to anyone and I go my way. I know that there are more handsome, with more money but… what difference does it make! I am me and I feel good. I do not long for or long for what others have.

But he does not see things the way I do, he is always asking questions about others, to whip himself. I wish I could help him but he can’t even see me.

Perhaps one day and as the years go by, he will reflect on this aspect of his personality and work on it. Simply to feel better about yourself and to evolve and improve as a person.

I think I will try to get away little by little and without him noticing. My relationship with him is extremely toxic and suffocates me, especially when we are with others. I continually measure my words so that I do not suffer sacrificing my well-being … And that is not good for me either.

I think you should feel more confident about yourself. Don’t compare yourself to anyone. “

Clues to spot an envious

• They look you up and down. They do not want to lose a detail of how you are dressed, how you behave, etc.
• They are always aware of other people.
• They tend to criticize and judge.
• Many times  they expose others.
• They never have enough and are never satisfied with anything. They always believe that others are the lucky ones and that they get everything.
• They are not usually creative. In fact, they tend to copy others.
• They rejoice in the failures of others.

How to act in front of an envious person?

You will always have someone who is envious near you; in a group of friends, in your work environment, among your neighbors or even in your family. Don’t let his negativity infect you, or let him make you feel bad.

• If it is a neighbor or an acquaintance:  do not take it into account or let it affect you in your life. If you can get away from him singing softly, all the better. You do not need to argue or get angry, you will not achieve anything.
• If it is a co-worker:  try to get along as a co-worker and nothing else. Surround yourself with companions who make you feel good and appreciate you. Do not tell him your personal things.

• If you are in a group of friends or family : If you feel comfortable in the group of friends, do not leave it for one person. Try to enjoy other people and try within yourself to understand it.

In general, it is about being aware of what is happening and not personalizing or getting carried away by other people’s feelings of envy.