The Hypocrite Is Not Preferred, But His Existential Farce

In Greek, the hypocrite is the actor, the one who speaks under a mask, the one who will speak while disguising his real thought. We are not going to deny that all of us have worn that mask at some point, but most of the time we have been ashamed of it.

The hypocrite is most appreciated on reality shows , in intrigue movies, on boring nights. He is noted as someone of value, in his ideals, love life, work. Give game, fun. His farce amuses us although we also notice some embarrassment at times.

But do you know what will always happen with a hypocrite? That he will never be missed. While they surround us, we tolerate them or laugh at their charade, but no one misses the hypocrite whose mask falls off. There is nothing of value in that person.

The farce of the hypocrite dazzles and entertains

Some people really feel bad when they don’t stand out or distance themselves from the majority. They prefer to criticize the qualities of others, rather than observe silence and discretion, because they cannot bear to go unnoticed. Many people resort to hypocrisy to gain recognition.

A celebrity obtained through cunning, deception, flattering speech, taking advantage of rivalries; it is vile and despicable in my eyes, but not in the eyes of others.

There are many other people who need this type of charade from time to time: they need information for a reproach, to feel better, to have compromised information that makes them feel special, etc.

We are describing the hypocrite as if he were someone very easy to identify, when he is not at all like that. You can spend years believing the hypocrite.

However, even though some people hang out with certain hypocrites, they don’t end up tolerating them. They always suspect that something is wrong. They are neither detectives nor gifted. They are usually empathetic people.

The resourceful person does not need hypocrisy

The ingenious person finds in his own thoughts and in his own fantasy with which to amuse himself pleasantly, while the limited being can infinitely attend festivals, the most varied shows without shaking off the boredom that tortures him.

A good character may be content with simplicity, while all the wealth may not be enough to satisfy an avid, envious and petty character.

Nothing plays a more decisive role than a strong personality to guarantee and provide the means to cope with life’s hustle and bustle. In this sense, empathy helps us to treat others, while self-love helps us to treat ourselves.

Empathic people do not tolerate hypocrites

Empathy is the experience of understanding another person’s thoughts, feelings, and conditions from their point of view. You try to imagine yourself instead to understand how it feels. Empathy facilitates prosocial (helping) behaviors that come from within, so that we behave more compassionately.

Empaths are very sensitive people who rarely stand up for themselves. They are generally very shy and observe everything around them. Even in front of people who wear a nice mask, they often notice behavior or words that do not fit.

When they meet people who are desperately seeking acceptance, people who hide their anger to appear calm, people who build a wall to compensate for their insecurities, people who really seek to blend in, in short, the hypocrites … empathetic people become insensitive. They don’t know how to react.

The reason is that they know how to put themselves in the place of the other, but the other appears each time as someone more diffuse. Without words, personality, values. It changes depending on the people around you drastically.

He refers to himself with an exaggerated victimhood. We cannot know what happens to him, but in reality nothing happens to him. He is usually pretending or exaggerating. Empathic people end up completely out of the game.

What is the hypocrisy that bothers us the most?

What exactly is the problem with hypocrisy? When someone condemns the behavior of others, why do we find it so objectionable if we learn that he himself has the same behavior?

The answer may seem obvious. Not practicing what you preach or lacking the willpower to live up to your own ideals are clear moral flaws.

But research in the journal Psychological Science suggests a different explanation. The reason people don’t like hypocrites is that their overt moralizing falsely points out their virtue.

People are opposed, in other words, to deceptive involvement, not to a failure of the will or a weakness of character.

The fact that a hypocrite does not keep his word is not the most harmful. It is that he attacks those who do because he feels intimidated by them, he knows that it is a clear way to translate his charade.

Furthermore, it is that his outspoken moralization falsely conveys his own virtue, giving him undue reputational benefits and at the expense of the people he publicly shames.

He would be better off if he just admits that sometimes he doesn’t live up to these ideals himself. He would be calmer, not stealing so much time from others.