Tell Me What You Brag About And I’ll Tell You What You Suffer From (Superb Relational Styles)

Some people, in the face of their low self-esteem, tend to show off by placing false personal virtues, showing values ​​and trying to attract attention whenever they have the opportunity. What happens is that they often point out what is missing in their personal back room.

The result: they end up being rejected because they become self-defectors who do not give place to others. These are people who develop superb relational styles. Let’s go deeper.

A fauna of ostentatious

Devaluation or low self-esteem is one of the great evils of human beings. Good self-esteem involves valuing yourself, loving yourself, putting yourself first and staying away from selfishness or egotism. It is also understanding your own limitations and capabilities. It is about knowing what can or cannot be done, what are the strengths, resources and weaknesses. In short, a true and integral recognition.

Now, valuation is a process that is metabolized indoors in our minds and in our emotions. It is a self-reflective process that explores both one’s own strengths and weaknesses. We are the only ones who must value ourselves: reconsider our personal values, feel valuable to ourselves and to others. Because if we do, we will offer the best of ourselves to others.

Nothing further than genuine appreciation is found in the swanky fauna. This group is made up of proud, arrogant, humble and false modest, overestimated, egotistical, boastful, ostentatious, petulant … who are some specimens of the genre that try through various avenues to seek recognition and defend themselves in the face of their strong feelings of inner worthlessness.

They are forms of interaction that generate reactions in different contexts. Mechanisms that include personal handicap, in which the following equation could be applied: tell me what you boast about and I will tell you what you suffer from.

Braggers consciously believe that they can do anything and that is not having good self-esteem, it is egotism; that is, the idolization itself. Of course, this is closer to pedantry and arrogance, although it could well be typical of delusional behavior.

• They are omnipotent overbearing who try to monopolize dialogues, granting themselves a small-time shine and are absolutely selfish, in whose dialogues -which are monologues- it is heard to say: “because I…, I once…, you know that I…”, despite the fact that the interlocutor is talking about some topic.

Superb relational styles

Proud and smug

In pride

Boastful and ostentatious

There are also braggarts who have this touch of pedantry. For example, the braggart is the one who monopolizes the attention in social gatherings, conducting various topics. He has the ability to read little and superficially articles of curiosities in popular magazines or to memorize some notes of the Discovery channel.

In addition, he talks and talks in a seductive way without giving place to others and, at times, makes a fool of himself because he tries to provide technical construction knowledge to an engineer, explains unconscious mechanisms to the psychologist, teaches quantum physics class to physicist or physicists. cloning mechanisms to the biologist, chair of international politics, marine biology and even current news analysis, but these are not indicators of wisdom but of ways to stand out in social gatherings.

This is one of the superb relational styles that could be mitigated with humility. The person could even be truly admired.

Proud and overrated

These bad guys could be called proud. Precisely, the word pride is one of the misapplied terms in common use. In general, it is treated as a synonym for pride: he is proud! You are proud, who do you think you are! And nothing more wrong.

Being proud of who you are is the best thing that can happen to a person. It is synonymous with an optimal and productive valuation. It does not imply that someone is superior to someone, it is not a measure that denigrates the other, it is a personal estimate of what I am worth.

Pride doesn’t mean overvaluing yourself either. Overestimating yourself suggests giving yourself more value than you have. The overrated person thinks they are someone they are not. As such, it is a defensive position that hides feelings of inner worthlessness.

For example, someone does not get a job because they want to get a boss or manager position, without having previously had any work experience, even in theory! He is convinced that he qualifies for that position and thinks that another lesser position denigrates him, is not for him and is not equal to him. In reality, if you take a lower-ranking position than the aspirant, you connect with that ineptitude that you do not want or want to raise awareness. So, you prefer not to work to accept your devaluation. They end up excusing themselves in the social and economic policy of the country and that work is not achieved.

Humble and false modest

fake modest

egotistically

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