Seducing Is An Art

Seduction has been associated with something deceptive and sometimes evil. But sometimes it is done unconsciously and involuntarily and, furthermore, seducing is almost always done for the purpose of mutual sentimental benefit. In fact, to love someone is to be seduced by that person.

To improve our seduction before others, it is key to know what we do and why we do it, what expressions cause us discomfort and, furthermore, do not give us results.

The key sites to seduce

In his book The Amatory Arts, Ovid had already thrown some clues on how and where to find the woman he loved and on how to get her love. It is quite practical, and recommends the practice of seduction in places designed for it, such as parties, theaters, forums, triumph celebrations, banquets, tickets for the year, etc.

Ovid and the Kamasutra, the classics of seduction, give us some recommendations on how to get the other person’s interest:

• Give gifts of value (whether sentimental or material).
• Do not contradict him in the first meetings.
• Sit close to him / her or dance next.
• If it can be, organize a meeting prepared so that the person knows in advance our interest.

Seduction is not only used to flirt

It can be seduced to provoke the interest of others towards us.  Also to arouse curiosity, generate the desire to know ourselves in others, make others feel comfortable in our company, that they look for us and love us …

And use seduction not only for pubs and discos, since although they are a good place, we can meet someone interesting in any other place.

People are never the same, we change over time. Therefore, we do not always desire the “same person” that we are with. In addition, the beautiful thing is to discover every day what is new in the other person.

But… What is seduction?

Seducing is about causing interest and transforming it into desire, getting someone to notice us in a positive and curious way. It is about settling in your imagination permanently, making your desire to meet us grow every moment.  Feed the desire, generating the expectation of the possible.

The physical … Is it necessary to be handsome or pretty?

Well it is not. In fact, some people, because they have a good physique, do not take care of other aspects of their personality that finally become deficiencies. 

But there is only one chance for a first impression so you have to take care of personal hygiene and look awake and healthy. If necessary, you have to make small image changes, the limit is to remain ourselves. 

And the body language?

The photo of someone can attract us, but it is only the corporal expression and the dynamics of their body that will cause us attraction or total disinterest. It is closely related to the unconscious world and each of us is drawn to specific patterns of behavior. You have to be careful with impulsiveness and also with an overly passive attitude.

What happens if they reject us?

You can keep trying if you notice that the person was not very receptive  or the circumstances weren’t right. Maybe your skills are not as developed as you think. Perhaps you have started with very high goals, you have not tried it in the right way. You must take into account your mistakes and not repeat them. You must practice more.

Contrary to simplistic views of men and women, Anderson (1968) states that there are fundamental characteristics shared by successful people in love, contrary to the myth “that being bad hooks the other more”.

It states that the most valued people are sincere, honest, understanding, loyal and trustworthy. Meanwhile, the least valued are liars, petty, false, cruel and dishonest.