Resilience, Being Strong Despite Storms

There are people who are characterized by their great capacity for resilience. They are those that have as a weapon their ability to stay afloat in the face of difficulties and as their main support the vision of difficulty as learning.

They know that immunity to suffering is impossible and they understand that the storms that make our days dark are also opportunities to overcome. So they arm themselves with courage and continue, having as a mantra to continue to grow, despite adversity.

Be resilient on a day-to-day basis

Resilience is a concept that has acquired great relevance in recent years. Especially from those perspectives, such as positive psychology, that are more interested in investigating what are the characteristics that allow people to overcome adversity, leaving in the background the understanding of those factors that increase the probability of a mental disorder.

When we talk about resilience, we usually think of traumatic events, such as the loss of a loved one, surviving an accident or situations of abuse … But in our day to day there are also complex situations that we have to face. There is no need for a catastrophe to happen, overcoming any daily difficulties such as facing criticism, managing to overcome or starting the day with a smile after a time of sadness is also being resilient.

Characteristics of resilient people

There are people who are resilient because they have had an example of resilience to follow, such as their parents or a brother, but others have learned to deal with and overcome the stones of the road on their own: they have learned from trial and error, it has been done strong from their own scars.

This tells us that resilience is a skill that we can all develop and therefore practice.  For this, it is necessary to properly manage our thoughts and emotions.

1. They know how to adapt to changes

Resilient people have, like reeds, the ability to be flexible when the wind blows hard. They know that going against the odds will cause them to lose energy and they choose to be open minded.

They let go of their old beliefs, prejudices and insecurities to dress in new costumes that accompany them in times of change. But they do not adapt out of resignation, but because they know that there are other different worlds that are not wrong because they are different.

2. They lean on their strengths

Resilient people know each other. They know what it is that hurts and bothers them and they understand that the fundamental support of their well-being depends on taking care of themselves. Resilient people know how to identify their weaknesses but also their strengths to implement them when necessary.

They will use their will to fight, their motivation, their effort and their skills as the foundation to keep going. But, above all, they respect themselves and take themselves into account because they know that knowing each other is the fundamental step to grow and establish healthy relationships with others.

3. They know that accepting is necessary to advance

Resilient people know that acceptance is the allied companion of advancement and change. Because only when we accept what happens to us can we start working to improve it. Otherwise, if we deny it, all we do is give it more force.

4. They consider that no one is immune from suffering

Being resilient does not mean that a person does not have injuries, but that despite them the adverse situation has been instructive in some way. He has been able to accept pain and instead of immersing himself in it, he has chosen to learn.

As you can see, being resilient can be learned and trained. In fact, it would have to be a fundamental teaching in schools. It is always worth learning strategies to improve and continue to grow and resilience is that capacity that allows us to be strong despite the strong wind, adapting ourselves as best as possible to the potholes that make up losses, disappointments, traumas and the failures.

You are also resilient, do not forget it, or is it that you have not overcome any difficulty or situation in your life? Think and remember that time you were brave and despite your fear, you jumped into the pool …