On My Emotional Path I Demand Stars

“Be that as it may, I don’t know if I am a star, a planet, or a black hole, but in my emotional path I demand stars. And the older I get, the sooner I identify the ones that aren’t. It is one of the hazards of getting old, that you see everything coming light years away.

There are movie loves and there are spot loves. Feature film loves and loves that barely last twenty seconds. The difference is that you live the first ones only once. And the seconds, whether you like it or not, you are condemned to repeat them as many times as they want, even against your will. “

Excerpt from a text by Risto Mejide for Elperiodico.com

Conform is one of the ugliest and saddest words out there. It is painful because it denotes that we have stopped working alongside our illusion.

That we settle for anything is an uncomfortable truth that we have to come to terms with. We are afraid of being left alone, that our rice will run out, of what society will say when it looks at us …

Faced with these dilemmas, it is normal that we rush to choose at all costs a candidate or a candidate who helps us to obtain a perfect combination.

You deserve what makes you feel best, without half measures.

You have likely had many failed relationships. Do not look to blame, it is usually our wrong ideas about love that make us fail.

It does not consist of waiting for the handsome man from Hollywood to come to give us a movie kiss, to take us in his convertible and to travel the world with passion overflowing as a flag. Demanding stars on our emotional path has only one reading: the love you deserve is the one that wants to make you happy and be happy with you.

And, when you find that person, you will realize that there is nothing comparable to taking a person by your side who is willing to solve your differences and your conflicts.

Because when we find the right person, you just know. And it is known because  when he hugs you tightly, he mends all your broken parts.

And the fact is that the stars are those stars that have their own light and, since they never stop shining, they destroy all the darkness in their path. As Risto says, it is a light that makes you fall in love because it is free and does not depend on anything or anyone.

I don’t need you, I prefer you

Love is not nourished by necessity, but by preference. That is, emotional independence is the ideal in couples and that is what we have to achieve. It is that preferring is immensely more enriching and healthy than needing.

Our star illuminates any place and at any time, it is like that regardless of where it is. However, we must bear in mind that our star consumes itself only to illuminate and that it can run out of energy if the star next to it does not collaborate, if it does not give it intensity and reasons to continue shining.

To form a couple is to build a work team. And working as a team does not mean creating dependency, but cooperating with the same enthusiasm with which we see the stars shine every night. And they never fail, they are always there in the sky accompanying us even though the clouds make it difficult for us to see.

We have to stay with the idea that there are no moments in which it is up to us to start a relationship because it seems that it is what touches or that it is what attracts us, but we have to demand that what accompanies us is the ideal complement to enlighten our affection.

Featured image courtesy of AJ Cass