Learn To Trust What Is Happening

How to trust what is happening if my reality is full of tensions, fears and unhappiness ? Becoming aware. It is not just about knowing how to identify those external enemies that harm us, those sharks that swim in rough seas …

But knowing how to connect with ourselves to regain confidence, to cling a little less to worries, and allow ourselves to be more free, let go and become fully aware of the here and now, integrating ourselves into our innermost being.

We know that it is not always easy to achieve this. When one has many responsibilities and there is no opportunity to free ourselves from everything, we must learn to set priorities.

What happens in these very moments is for something, in your hands is to set the course of your destiny as long as you know how to trust yourself, and in the certainty that wonderful things can come.

How to practice the art of non-resistance

You may have heard about the strategy of not resisting us on occasion. Now, it is important that we define this idea a little more so as not to be misled.

– “Non-resistance” does not at all mean letting ourselves be carried away where others want or where life chooses to drag us without us having the option to decide.

– Those who resist, often oppose change and stop trusting themselves, and even close the doors to new opportunities.

It is often said that people spend multiple energies on useless things or that hurt us:

Focusing much of our time on a job that makes us unhappy by neglecting the family, offering our life to a partner who offers us unhappiness and whom we dare not leave out of fear or indecision …

We practice very little that internal listening, that communion with ourselves to attend to our most intimate needs and discover what really happens inside us.

You know very well what is happening around you right now, so take a moment to reflect on these aspects:

• Is there some kind of storm on your mind? Are you feeling lost, angry, frustrated perhaps? Identify your needs

How to learn to trust what is happening

First of all, you must be aware that in yourself, there is much more strength than you think, and that you also have many coping strategies that sometimes you are not aware of.

1. The recognition

The first step in learning to trust what is happening around you is to recognize everything that surrounds you, your circumstances and the people around you.

• I recognize your way of being, and I realize that it is incompatible with mine.
• I acknowledge that the circumstances we have created between the two of us are harmful.
• I recognize that there is pain, I experience it, I feel it and I realize that I must react.

2. Responsibility

Being responsible means first taking control of the situation, and then and not least:  not blaming anyone for what happens.

If I look for culprits, it is most likely that it will generate anger, and if there is anger, there is resistance again and we will be held captive by our own negative emotions.

– Act responsibly without looking to blame for what happened, let alone yourself. We must avoid internal weights.

– Now that you have recognized the situation, you know that you must act responsibly. It is time to give a creative response, to take action. 

Transform your reality to make it better

3. Advance without defensive attitudes

Let us return once more to the image of the storm. When what is happening right now is that a heavy downpour full of winds and thunder has been unleashed, we must avoid acting like that branch that seeks to remain firm and defensive against the elements.

The reason? It will most likely end up bent, broken or torn off by the storm. What does this mean?

– Defensive attitudes are often very poisoned by resentment and mistrust. They will prevent you from being free.

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