It Is Not Stronger Who Supports More, But Who Is Able To “let Go”
We know it is not easy. That we often repeat that of “then leave everything and do what you really want” … Now, how do you get to do such a thing? Sometimes something like this would be little more than a dramatic act in which we let go of too many things, and even people. However, it is not the strongest who supports the most, but the one who knows how to “let go.”
Like everything in life, you have to know how to maintain a healthy balance. Each of us has basic essences, some pillars that we cannot give up: your family, your children, that job that offers you a house and food …
We cannot break with everything to hit the reset button if at any given moment we feel saturated. Now, within these basic pillars there will be things that we can change , and even “let go”.
You have to “let go” of prioritizing too much others before yourself. You have to put the value of emotions and good times before worries and pressures. And if within that personal panorama, that micro-universe that defines and surrounds us, there is someone who hurts us and poisons our present, then we must also break the link.
For our health, for our personal balance… Let’s reflect today on the “real concept of strength”.
When we fall prisoners of unhappiness
If we look up the definition of strength in the dictionary, we will discover several definitions that should make us think. We have first of all the concept of “strength and vigor”. We also find the image of the “fortified enclosure as a castle or citadel”. But at the same time, we also read the idea that it is a “cardinal virtue that consists in overcoming fear and fleeing recklessness” , and that is where we have to stop.
Often, when we meet someone and ask them “how are you doing”, they tell us , for example, that they have a boss who does not treat them too well, that they hardly have time for the children, that their partner has become something demanding and selfish, and they can barely even look in the mirror.
We, worried, can not say more than “take care” , reading in his face much more than what his words say. And indeed, we can also see them as strong people because they face the day to day with integrity, giving everything for others. However, the most likely is that there will come a time when they end up falling.
Returning to the dictionary definition of strength as a virtue of overcoming fear and fleeing recklessness, we could also add that a person is not strong just for fleeing or overcoming what we fear. Being strong is also giving yourself priority and knowing that you are the owner of your life, letting go of what sometimes hurts us, or prevents us from moving forward with integrity and balance.
How to be strong on a daily basis
Being strong is waking up every morning finding something that makes sense to us, something that gives us hope every morning from the moment we put our foot on the floor after getting out of bed. The world, although we may not believe it, is also full of “lifeless people”, beings that wander around us without purpose, without hope or projects. Having an illusion and being excited about ourselves offers us a vital project, it offers us strength and integrity.
Nor is the strength in those who have power, in those who have the capacity to control or dominate others. Being strong is also enjoying our freedom, avoiding those toxic attachments that hurt and that prevent us from growing.
Being strong is also knowing how to say NO to those who prioritize only themselves, who only see their own navel and their own universe without perceiving the suffering of others or the emotional emptiness that their attitude causes.
You will be strong if you also dare to let go of what does not make you happy, be it people, things, settings or even thoughts. Because sometimes not only what is outside hurts us, sometimes, our own attitude to certain things can also put us walls and barriers.
Image courtesy Lucy Campbell, Amanda Cass.
