If You Are Going To Destroy Us, Pride Is Ridiculous
If pride can with us, it is that we do not love each other enough or that our self-love is greater than what we can give ourselves. For you, surely you are in this situation with another or other people, it will be beneficial for you to have someone remember you, so that you can remind them that if they are going to destroy you, pride is ridiculous.
Letting go of any type of close relationship that we have had in our life by paying attention to pride is, perhaps, one of the worst decisions we can make: two people who want to be together, regardless of the type of relationship, cannot allow pride get in the way.
Ridiculous pride is the one that looks like pride
Pride, like most things in life, can also have two faces: a vain and arrogant one that does not let us see beyond our own ego, although something inside us does want to do it and another of dignity and sustained in the self-love.
The first of their faces is terrible because then pride causes the greatest distances that exist between people and I am not talking about kilometers, but about cold. When we feel pride we accept to put in front of us an opaque glass through which we see, but blurred.
That opaque glass seems to only hurt in one direction, but it really doesn’t. When pride takes over us, the damage is directly towards ourselves: tying the heart and body so that it does not do what it wants out of a feeling of pride can eat us inside little by little. Pride then is ridiculous, because it only affirms the already existing distance, because it moves away and breaks.
When there is love there is also humility
One of the opposites of pride is humility and whenever there is love, humility is indispensable. When something happens to us with someone we love and we feel, in a certain way, betrayed, how we act is what really defines us: arrogance never opens doors, but forgiveness and changes in perspective prevent many from closing.
It is necessary to say that after all when we speak in terms of pride, humility and above all of love, we do it thinking of two. Love means self-care, of course, but also mutual : I love you and that is why I will take care of our relationship, I will be more humble when it is more difficult and I will support you more when you least deserve it.
Pride is also morally valued
Everything in life has a limit, including our freedom: surely you know well that your freedom ends where mine begins. Humility, love and overflowing affection are very nice as long as we know what the limits are to be reached, because if we cannot, we will be able to harm ourselves.
We have said that pride can be ridiculous when two parties in a relationship want to remain together and put other things before affection; But, and this is where personal dignity comes into play, the situation is different when the relationship hurts us and we don’t have enough pride to walk away.
If you think that pride is destroying you, then it is not worth it and it is useless: you have to learn to remove the glass and go further. If, on the other hand, you believe that you are destroying yourself toxicly, then self-love is more necessary than that of others. For this reason, whenever pride invades you inside, remember the two sides of the coin, evaluate and make decisions that you know will take you somewhere.
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