How To Fill The Soul When Sad

“You feel sad, lonely, dejected… sometimes things are not how you would like them to be. Things are not going well at work, he is not happy with his partner; sometimes he argues too much with his parents. You start to worry because sadness is settling in your head like a bird finding its nest. He does not know how to get rid of that pain that floods him every day and every night.

When he is sad, he decides not to leave the house, not to talk to anyone, and all he does is get into his own thoughts. And he thinks over and over again: “I need to change all this, I can’t go on like this when something happens to me. Yes, sometimes life is sad, but I can’t let it take over me … “

Sometimes you feel a deep sadness …

Sometimes you feel a deep sadness that invades your soul, difficult to explain. Perhaps it is that things are not going well for you at work, with your partner, with your children or worst of all … there is a little bit of everything in your trunk of sorrows.

You really can’t help feeling bad and although everyone tells you “you have to cheer up”, “you have to go out”, you can’t and you just think “Of course it’s easy to give advice, I would put you in my place”.

You can’t, you don’t feel like it, the pain suffocates you, it overwhelms you. So how can you change it if the situation drags on? ,  Can we really learn to feel better when we are sad ?, and how we do? Perhaps it is easier than you think or, on the contrary, it is a task that takes you a while, a time of dedication to acquire new habits.

Tips guide to fill your soul when you are sad

Next, we offer you a guide of tips to fill your soul when sadness invades you. The fundamental condition is found in wanting to do it …

• Surround yourself with the people who really make you feel good and stay away from the ones who make you feel bad. The important thing is you. Don’t you know people who have the ability to comfort you with a few words, who are capable of making you laugh with nothing? Learn and enjoy them. Friends can be a balm that heals your wounds.

• Find what you really like. Fill your life with things that you really like. .. Are you fond of cooking, reading, traveling, dancing …? They are great ways to disconnect from your sadness. When the mind is entertained in something else, we forget about sorrows.

• Do you play any sport. It is proven that sport awakens the endorphins of happiness. People who play sports are less prone to sadness.
• Treat yourself. A little whim can help us feel more cheerful and content. Drink chocolate or a sweet, buy yourself something you like, etc.
• Go out and enjoy. When you are sad, do not stay in the house ruminating your sorrows, get dressed, make yourself handsome and go for a walk. You will see how you return with other spirits. Pajamas are sometimes our worst enemy.

• Do not demand yourself or demand so much from others. Learn not to demand so much. When we set too high expectations for something or someone, we are easily disappointed.
• Learn to resign yourself, but with happiness. It starts to understand that life is full of not only good moments, but there are also bad ones and you should not oversize them excessively. When they pass, forget about them and move on.

• Try to change what you can and don’t like about your life. If something is in your power, be brave and change it. Are you unhappy with your partner? Don’t you like your job? Try to break away from what you don’t like and start over.
  
• Don’t think so much. We all think too much. Sometimes we are saddened by things from the past or things that have not yet come. The past is past and the future is yet to come. Focus on the present.

Sadness is something innate in all of us. However,  learning not to let that sadness settle in our heads is a challenge that we must all undertake.

Love and compassion

Different scientific studies affirm that meditating in love and compassion eliminates sadness. But what do these two concepts consist of? From Buddhist psychology it is maintained that love is the aspiration that all beings have happiness and the causes of happiness. The compassion is the aspiration that all beings be free of suffering and its causes. This theory of more than 2,500 years now science is showing that it has very positive consequences at the brain level.

Matthieu Ricard is considered the happiest man in the world. A biologist and a Buddhist monk for more than 40 years, he is an expert meditator. Through MRI and evoked potentials, his brain was analyzed while he was meditating. The results were amazing. While meditating, it generated an unusual activation of the left prefrontal cortex, an area known as the nucleus of positive emotions (happiness, compassion, love…).

It is proven that getting out of sadness and walking towards happiness can consist of training. So there is no time to waste!