How To Detect A Friend Who Is Not

Friendship can sometimes be “deceptive”, someone we trust can really be a friend who is not. But how to identify those false friendships?

We see it with an example: many times it is frankly difficult to differentiate an authentic bag from an imitation bag. They have the same shape, the same color, the same touch, the same stitching, the same measurements, they have even bothered to refine with the brand’s label. But there are small details that give them away over time.

The imitation bag fades in an unusual way when wet or exposed to the sun, the interior compartments to store your most intimate things unravel and cause you discomfort, and even the rope you use to hang it on your shoulder is no longer so comfortable as in the beginning.

And what are you going to do. We could say that “they have given it to you, but how very good.” Even so, you continue to wear it because you feel sorry to throw it away and it is still “cute”, although you will never take it to an important act again.

The same thing happens with a friend who is not

They seem perfect for you and your circumstances, but you do not know why strange reason over time they cause you more discomfort and headaches than is expected of someone with whom you should share interesting conversations. They seem to fade over time.

It begins to be strange not to argue over nonsense, and not feel tension by certain reactions. It only happens to you with that person and you think about it for a long time. His behavior leaves something to be desired , but you don’t want to open your eyes completely. Going discarding friends for life is not to anyone’s liking.

Here we are going to give you some guidance on fake copies, in a “soul friend version” that may sound familiar to you. Eye! They are very subtle and you may think that they are not so bad, but take them into account before your feelings completely overflow.

How does a friend who is not behave?

No doubt. If your friend exhibits these behaviors, put his bag in the storage room and put his number on the list of “unwanted” contacts. Or format everything, if you stick to it. A friend who is not, follows these patterns:

1. Your way of communicating

Your friend seems delighted to talk to you, yes, but always bad about other people. He does not leave a puppet with a head and instead of throwing cotton clouds through his mouth he puts poison, of the mortal. Curiously, with that person who criticizes, he seems to get along great when you go out, from time to time he drops a compliment. Sure, the person in question is in front.

And he makes comments out of tune: “mine was better”, “I already did that”, “already but I’ve been through that too” “it’s not that bad …” His maturity level is 100 and yours is 0. He says he wants to help you but does little practical things for it.

2. Your feelings and reactions

That friend who is not, is not sincere with his feelings, so you do not understand. It makes a mess, and you more. In the end, he seems to adopt a defensive attitude “for not understanding it.” It is exhausting.

Also, think that your story is not so bad. He says he understands you, although your problems are not so bad. You do not want me to evaluate the degree of importance of them. You just want to vent.

 And it tells you to be happy and positive, but it doesn’t apply. That is, by not recognizing something that is hurting you, it disguises it as a false strength that collapses as soon as you do something fun. Either he’s out of control, or he’s tired, or the place you’ve taken him to is a drag. Another point to note in how useless you are in this friendship.

3. How it relates

You give an excessive importance to social relationships, you always want to help everyone, but when you do, you feel saturated. He can’t say no, and when things are serious he seems to hesitate.

A friend who is not tells you that you have many virtues when you are in a low moment, he loves to be with you… .but don’t you dare to level up in any field. We will move on to demotivating phrases, to “that always goes wrong” or “be realistic.” He is with you in the bad times, but he does not seem to enjoy when you are in the good times.

He has no sense of humor, or at least yours. You love to laugh and if you tell him something funny he will say “well I can’t find it funny.” You don’t know what to talk about anymore.

4. Your life and that of others

He asks you questions about other friends of yours and family, and it seems that with the intention of judging them as well. You already refuse that, but he is insistent, he likes to know details that do not concern him.

On the other hand, he repeats the same stories over and over again, as if losing track of who has told them or not. And in front of several people you see that he even says: “This is a very delicate subject, but don’t you say anything is worth it?”. Of course, it is not a role model before others. If he did not tell it, there would be no need to ask others for trust.

He says that he is very strong and that he has been through many things, but that should not be a reason to disqualify your own concerns, especially when you have listened to him in any type of situation, no matter how “light” it may seem to you.

5. Other aspects that define a friend who is not

With these kinds of “friends” there are no political or religious debates. He has already prepared a sentence sentence to finish and you will be like the madman who brings up tricky topics. You had found that news of the newspaper outrageous, but you end up even more indignant with his attitude.

The end of the relationship

But you’ve already reached a point where you can’t take it anymore, you tell him that you have to improve the relationship. He is surprised but you are left with the idea of ​​improvement purpose. You feel guilty for bringing up these problems to someone close to you because you shouldn’t talk behind your friend’s back.

You have arrived late. There are already too many things that do not fit you … you pull the thread and PUM! He has made broth with your person with friends and acquaintances in the most creepy way. With the most surreal lies. And with the most hurtful taunts. He has not left a drop of you safe.

Although to hurt little. You don’t feel sorry. Now this person will be afraid that others will pull the thread and that you will not speak. You do not need to worry. In front of people like that, you don’t have to waste another minute of your time. You have remained in glory and he or she with his viperine tongue.