How Do Manipulative People Relate To Each Other?

Without realizing it, we can be immersed in relationships with manipulative people.  People who change our way of thinking or acting, just for their own good.

There are different “categories” within manipulators, depending on the control that individual exercises over us. If this pressure is very serious, the experts call it: “narcissistic perversity” and we will talk about this in this article.

You have surely seen several movies, read books or heard stories about people who manipulate their partners, their children, their friends, etc. This type of personality exists in all families and we are not always aware of the situation. What’s more, we can even be victims of manipulative people right now and not know it.

How are manipulative people

The perverse narcissists, as some psychologists call this profile, are those who are constantly telling the other what to do, in a subtle way (or not), but with an effectiveness that really scares, while restricting their freedom.

These people, in turn, may have other negative behaviors, such as , excesses of all kinds emotional, aggressive and threatening behavior, continuous disrespect and contempt.

When you talk about a wicked individual, it is 24 hours a day, without distinction. The relationship with his victim has been determined in that way and there is nothing that can change it, unless the one who is suffering the manipulation begins to want to modify the situation.

Especially in relationships with a manipulative person, it can take a long time for the victim to realize what is happening. She does not want to hear what her loved ones tell her, she believes that everyone is wrong, that the other person does it because he loves her, that he can make his own decisions, that he is not afraid of him, etc.

Victim and manipulator

At some point, it is not yet clear why the person suffering from the manipulator’s clutches wakes up from such numbness. Imagine for a moment what the spider does with its prey: it wraps it in its web, until it finally feeds on it. Something similar happens with manipulators and the positive energy of their “prey”.

Although in relationships we all complement each other, the one who has the most to lose is the manipulator, not the manipulated. This is so, since it is “consuming” something that the victim has, such as intellectual capacity, kindness, charisma, solidarity, self-esteem, friendships, work, health, etc.

We always talk about the characteristics of manipulative people and how to realize if someone is controlling us, but never put into question trial why that reacts person in this way, what is need and how asking for help.

We are not saying that he is not responsible or guilty of his actions, however, it would be necessary to analyze what traumas or problems in the past have led him to act in this way or what are his deepest needs. When a narcissistic perverse meets someone easy to govern, it is where he can put into practice or deposit all his traumas.

Without the intention of offending anyone, a manipulator acts when the victim allows it. This does not always happen on purpose by the manipulated, and there are even cases in which the perpetrator does not realize it either.

The reason that perversity

The manipulative person envies what the other has, so he uses his tools to take it. The victim cannot see the maneuvers used against her, she is so blind in love, she does not take the other’s actions as something negative, etc.

But this can influence your mind and your emotions, just like a drop that falls on a stone, after thousands of years it ends up wearing it down. When a manipulator meets a self-confident person who has their own opinions about certain things and has even had something bad happened to a perverse narcissist before, they have more weapons to not allow spider webs to engulf them.

But be careful, no one is 100% immune from these types of personalities, since some know perfectly how to do a “fine job” and almost imperceptible, until the other becomes a puppet.

Be very careful with the people you associate with. It is not a matter of feeling threatened or persecuted all the time, but of walking on safe paths. Do not hesitate to do some introspection to determine, objectively, if you can have a personality that can be easily manipulated.