Forgiveness Is Not Looking Back
Since I was little, I was lucky to grow up “ listening inwardly” to those who surrounded me and loved me, thus beginning to learn one of the main values that make us human : forgiveness.
At this stage of our life, childhood, we receive and capture anything, sensations and learnings that allow us to begin to develop our emotions.
Our environment conditions us, both for good and for bad. In my case, this last condition was not the case. I was lucky, and I’ll be happy to tell you why.
Every day of my life, from my early maturity, my family and those around me were constant at instilling in me what today makes up one of the parts of my current emotional skeleton: learning to forgive those who hurt us.
Very soon I understood the importance of this value. Carrying it out allows us to feel at peace and inner fulfillment with ourselves, and consequently with the world.
And believe me, this pillar of life is totally true . In many of our philosophies and religions they say that the act of forgiveness makes us great souls, endows us with a great heart and immense inner value. They also affirm that their eternal companion of adventures, forgetting, is the gift of those who are brave and from pure love value their own happiness.
Forgive and forget: two vital ingredients that each of us should consider developing every day of our lives, do you know why?
Little by little I learned that whoever causes you harm and discomfort does not make him a better person than you, and consequently you will not be weaker for forgiving him . I discovered that if we forgive and then forget we can feel that things stop hurting us, being able to forget or eliminate from your life those who do not truly love you and only seek your discomfort.
Invite your own heart to open up when someone apologizes to you and forgive them, even if it may be difficult for you, no matter how serious the experience or the damage caused. When you carry out the act of forgiveness you will feel enlightened and in balance with your own essence, your soul. And that is one of the best rewards of this life: the first step towards eternity.
Forgiving invites us many times also to ask ourselves the question of what happens if someone hurts me and does not apologize?
I invite you to stop and reflect with your heart. You will realize that your own soul will lead you to forgive anyway. Just remember how important it is in this case to ” know how to forget “. At the end of the day, it is not worth suffering for someone who could not or knew how to show that he valued you.
If this situation occurs, I would like to convey to you the precious emotion that you are much stronger, because you are able to show that you value and have respect for your own person. And trust me, that’s what really matters: self- respect and love in the first place . Without that we do not know how to give love, and consequently live fully.
Therefore, forgive and remember to forget. Both will become the key for you to follow your personal development and evolution as the great human being that you are.
Living under these values will allow you to get rid of the loaded backpack that you carry on your back, which does not let you look towards the sky, the destiny that all of us yearn for and pretend.
I will not say goodbye without first reminding you that living under the grudge will not do you any good, much less the person who did you that harm. Only, we can only change by having the courage to forgive and the work of forgetting what happened.
Learn to accept apologies if they are offered to your heart. If this does not happen, simply forget and continue on your way remembering that forgiving is not looking back.
“Forgiveness is the value of the brave.
Only the one who is strong enough
to forgive an offense,
knows how to love “
( Mahatma Gandhi )
