Emotional Dictators, Enemies Of Emotional Well-being
The key word for emotional dictators is “I.” These people need to feel that they are totally in control of every situation, and when this is not the case, they feel great frustration and intolerance. On the other hand, it seems that there is no predisposition for the formation of the authoritarian personality, insofar as it is not inherited, but rather develops from social norms transmitted by the family and other social agents.
Since personality characteristics by definition are stable and consistent across situations, authoritarian people will tend to show this behavioral pattern with people who are under their influence. For example, someone who is dominant with his employees is probably also dominant with his partner and children, or with other people whom he perceives as vulnerable.
These people are easy to recognize because they say what they think without looking for the right words. They do not care to hurt others and justify themselves by exalting their sincerity, which in reality is moral authority disguised as honesty . In fact, they don’t have much time for people as they are much more interested in their results.
Emotional dictators do not allow others to harshly punish the mistakes that others make, considering themselves the victim of an offense if they do not wish to do so. Self-deception and self-justification are the main characteristics that maintain and form these types of personalities.
Emotions in emotional dictators
The dictator is a despot, gives orders and expects them to be carried out immediately. You assume that your system is not only the best, it is the only one with internal consistency. He has a strong personality and is a great controller of others, he is competitive in all aspects.
He loves compliments and banal talk, especially when it comes to himself and his qualities. He is aggressive and scathing when opposed, and always tries to psychologically intimidate others. Understand that showing your power is a form of control and warning.
With all these emotional “qualities”, it is no wonder that he eventually ends up irritating the people he encounters by coercing them with his yelling, anger, and arrogance. It is vitally important that these people enhance their emotional intelligence. In this way they will be able to improve their ability to feel, understand, control and modify their emotional states and understand those of others.
Kinds of emotional dictators
Within the emotional dictators we find several types. There are those who aim to destroy self-esteem, create doubts and belittle others to feel superior. Others use fear to frighten and paralyze in order to become powerful.
There are also those who out of jealousy or envy strategically manipulate to unsuspected limits in order to strip the other of their resources, judgment and emotional stability. They demand explanations incessantly and demand a confession of apology. Emotional dictators need to be guilty in order for their emotions of frustration, rage, or anger to make sense.
They are people who do not know how to empathize with others, since making an effort to try to understand others or put themselves in the place of the other is very difficult for them. They tend to focus on themselves and their needs. They tend to have very rigid expectations of others and demand inflexible principles and rules that often lead to destructive criticism.
Identifying them is important for our emotional well-being since interacting with them can cause different social, family or emotional problems. If they are close to us, we might recommend psychotherapy to overcome the frustration, anger, and rage that make them act the way they do.
