Don’t Look Away To Silence What You Feel
Do not look at me like that. Please. Lower your gaze. Do not you see it? You look at me in a way that touches my soul. I do not know that they have those eyes that speak for you. I look at you and I know what you feel, not a single word needs to come out of your mouth.
But how is it possible that your look says so much? Maybe he’s just saying it to me. Could it be I who have a special gift to interpret it? I have always assumed that you had the ability to express a whole universe of emotions only with your eyes, but perhaps I am the one who is able to decipher what your gaze suggests.
Is it true what I think of his look?
But am I right or am I mixing my wishes and my fears with reality? Am I not imagining what I think you want to tell me?
Why do you keep looking at me like this? I don’t want to see what your eyes are asking of me. Ah! I know! I will lower my gaze. I will distract myself with the mobile. The success of the mobile is that it allows you to disconnect from the looks that you have around you, from the looks that are asking you to look at them, from the looks that want to interact with you.
Just by looking down and the pain, hope and sadness of others disappear. No one will judge you for looking at a screen. Don’t they do it too? Wow! I have looked at you again. You keep looking at me like this …
I don’t know what you have but you stir my soul. Why do you provoke emotions in me without my permission? I can’t help it! Oh yeah, I just have to look away again. Out of sight…
Don’t you see that your gaze awakens my compassion? Yes, your look accompanied by your silence. Now I have to do something! Don’t look at me like that, I know what’s wrong with you and I can’t help feeling the same as you do. Hala, that’s it! Have some of my lasagna, but taste it, you know that it is my favorite dish and that I am very hungry …
I only ask one thing in return, please stop looking at me like that …
Why does the gaze of others generate emotions in us?
The mechanism responsible for the empathy we feel has a name and is called the limbic system. The limbic system is a complex brain structure that manages a lot of information. The limbic system, in essence, is in charge of waking up, turning off and managing our emotions based on the information that our senses perceive.
A look, a song, a stabbing pain or the smell of fresh coffee are detected by our senses, endowed with meaning by our cortex and emotion by our limbic system.
But the limbic system has a characteristic that makes it very special. Our limbic system is an open structure that can come into resonance with the limbic system of our interlocutor, in such a way that we can feel exactly the same as him. Thanks to this complex system, we can feel empathy, saddened by the crying of our son, rejoice with the success of our partner and exalt ourselves at the goal of our favorite soccer team.
Don’t forget, the next time someone is looking at you, don’t look away to silence what you’re feeling. Look into the eyes of people and you will know what they feel and the emotion they are causing in you.
