Close Doors To Move Forward

Living in the past means living in the known and, therefore, comfortable. It means not jumping into the void. Don’t venture into new opportunities that can be scary, but also fascinating. If you want to achieve the bright future that awaits you, you must learn to close the doors of the past.

Let us take, for a moment, the license to compare our life to a closet. Over time we accumulate garments that are no longer worth us, we do not like how they feel or have gone out of style. We know for sure that we will never wear them again, but we still refuse to throw them away because we love them. Because they remind us of pleasant moments, because they are familiar to us.

The same goes for past experiences. Many times, the past is already gone, but we continue to live in it. We never stop remembering and reliving a reality that no longer has a place, that is no longer part of us and that, in many cases, hurts us.

If we want to acquire new clothes that are more beautiful, more current and, above all, that feel good to us, we have to empty our wardrobe of what no longer serves us. In the same way, if we want to create new and fond memories, we must get rid of what does not allow us to move forward.

Kill hope to close doors

This phrase may sound excessively blunt and direct, but killing hope is an essential step in moving forward. Sometimes things do not happen as we expected. It does not matter how much effort we have invested or the time we have dedicated to building a project. Life is changeable and unpredictable and we are not always in control of what happens.

When reality shakes us and throws our plans to the ground, we can be devastated. Confusion, frustration, sadness and anger invade us. What will become of us now that all our illusions and expectations have collapsed? The abyss of looking to the future can generate so much vertigo that we prefer to cling to a past that has been destroyed.

This is how we live on memories, on impossible yearnings and hopes that what we know and made us feel safe will re-emerge. The danger of putting ourselves in this position is that we put our lives on hold indefinitely. We renounce to heal ourselves, to learn from what happened and, above all, we renounce to build a future for ourselves.

Therefore, if you want to get ahead, take courage and assume that it is over. Take time to process the loss but don’t stop – there’s a lot out there waiting for you. When you put the past back in its place and integrate it into your life story, you are ready to move on.

Build a future

Sometimes living is like riding a bicycle: if you want to keep your balance, you have to keep moving forward. Therefore, taking action is one of the best decisions you can make to close doors. Focus on yourself and building the future you want. Remember that you no longer start from scratch, you start from the experience that what you have lived has given you.

So, set personal goals for yourself and work on them gradually. Think about how you want to improve your existence, what you want to achieve in each area of ​​your life, and invest your energy in it. Take action to improve your physical and emotional health. Take action to advance your career, to strengthen and expand your friendships. Learn a new skill or improve your relationship with your family members.

Any goal is good as long as it comes from you. Staying passive and inactive inevitably leads us to remember and bask in pain. If we are working on forging a future, we do not have time to devote to the past.

Trust yourself

Rebuild yourself. Love yourself, empower yourself, take care of yourself and take time. Develop your inner strength and kick-start your coping skills. Allow yourself to show yourself that you are much more capable than you thought, that you have within you all the tools to get ahead. And above all else, cheer yourself up in the process: stop putting yourself down and start trusting yourself.

Rate the work you did, regardless of whether the result was not what you expected. Evaluate what learning you can extract from the experience and release with love and gratitude. Closing doors is easier when you know that a bright future awaits you: the one that you are forging yourself.